I joke with my clients often that I am going to write two books: How To Be A Grown-Ass Man and How To Be A Grown-Ass Woman.
Being a grown-ass woman means being accountable for your actions and inactions. It means knowing that your criticism, your contempt, and yes, your nagging, creates a difficult environment for connection and intimacy. If you have been bugging your partner about their lack of attention, engagement, or willingness to listen, it’s worth looking at how you might contribute to this problem.
Grown-ass women take responsibility for the energy that they bring into a space, including their marriage or significant relationship.
Oprah apparently has a sign in her dressing room that says, “Please be responsible for the energy that you bring into this space.” That means learning how to contain but express your feelings without contaminating those around you.
Grown-ass women can listen to their partners and spouses and are interested and willing to create a space for these needs to be mutually fulfilled. Grown-ass women practice asking for what they want in a relationship in a non-demanding, direct, and clear manner.
Treating Others Well
Grown-ass women know that it never serves their relationship to talk about or treat their male or female partners like children.
Grown-ass women understand that if they have an agreement to be in a monogamous relationship with their partner, then finding mutually pleasurable and healthy ways to navigate sex and have their intimacy needs met is important.
Grown-ass women take the time to learn, discover, and explore what they want sexually, intimately, and spiritually in a relationship.
There is a reason why we don’t usually want 15-year-olds to get married—because they are not grown-ass women and grown-ass men, and they do not have the skills or developmental ability to engage in the honest and rewarding work of being a grown-ass couple.
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We enjoy doing this work and would enjoy doing it with you as well! To learn more about couples or individual counseling in Cherry Creek, please call us today at (720) 457-3342.