Healthy Relationships: Three lessons from a tulip
For some reason, we have it in our heads that a “healthy relationship” means no conflict…no strife…no complications…no opposing ideas.
This is not true.
By definition, if you are in a relationship, you will have conflict. Our relationships are eco-systems and any evolving, dynamic, changing eco-system will encounter conflict. Conflict, which is simply, opposing ideas.
The yellow tulip bulb that has been breaking open, sprouting, and stretching to the top of the twelve-inch glass container on my dining room table has been in conflict with its tunic (that is its “papery outer shell” of the bulb — I had to look that one up) for several weeks. ...