How Would Stepping Into The Arena Change Your Life?

Denver CounselingYou’ve surely heard of Brene Brown. And if you have worked with me, you have been encouraged (instructed) to read, watch, and listen to her work.

I stumbled upon this 3 minute piece with Dr. Brown and Oprah about the quote that changed Dr. Brown’s life. It is worth a watch.

The life-changing quote, by Theodore Roosevelt, is:

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly…if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…

Dr. Brown goes on to equate the arena to aspects of life…for her being in the public eye, in academia, in social media. She talks about the “Twitter thugs” that are quick to critique but hide in the stands safe from public eye and social humiliation. The arena is where we feel most vulnerable to others, exposed to their stares and judgments. Although most of us aren’t giving Ted Talks and sitting on Oprah’s sofa, we are in our own arenas.

How might this be relevant in your relationships?

  • Imagine stepping into the arena of your relationships.
  • Imagine bringing all of your self with you into the arena without allowing the critic’s jeers (the external or the internal critic that is) hold you back.
  • Imagine measuring your “success” by blood, tears, and sweat rather than perfection, tidiness, and prediction.

Your relationships are a primary arena in this life.

The relationship that you have with yourself, your spouse, your partner, children, best friend, boss, mother, father…everyone! The live arena of your intimate relationships will demand your grow and transform if you allow them to work you. This means becoming more and more courageously vulnerable everyday. The invitation is to show up valiantly…and when you “fail” because we all fail…doing so having dared greatly.

A time of resolution

This time of year invites us to make resolutions to improve, change, and grow in all aspects of our lives. Many of us make resolutions to lose weight, forgive others, and be more generous. Consider making a New Year’s resolution to show up more fully in your arena in 2014. How might your life change if you made this commitment to yourself?

If you are ready to step into the arena of your relationships in a new and valiant way, call Jenny Glick, licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship advocate. You can schedule a free 20 minute phone consultation by clicking the red button below or call 720.457.3342.